2008 Woodie Awards
Love Voz
'Oh you, the stricken one/ Love comes to you, it is not learned'
Ehssan Barkeshli and Shabnam Mahmoudkhan
Issue date: 5/27/08 Section: Features
Dear Love Voz,
My boyfriend and I broke up three months ago and I haven't been able to get over him. I've tried everything. We were dating for two years and we were in love, but we mutually decided to end our relationship because we both felt like we had grown apart. At the time I was sure I didn't want to be with him because he was acting weird and immature, but honestly, it wasn't that bad. He has moved on though and is dating somebody else he likes, or pretends to like. What should I do?
Female expert Shabnam Mahmoudkhan
Dear Teresa,
I'd like to start off by saying that no guy is ever worth crying over for more than two days, so get your act together. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and this guy was only one of them.
Everything changes depending how you look at it. You can't fully control your thoughts but you can choose what you want to focus on, and what you focus on will expand. If you change your mentality, you will change your life.
It's simple: Think about the good stuff you had, compare it to the bad stuff - then see if the good stuff is good enough to put up with the bad stuff. Get it? Then make a choice and stick with it.
Life is full of surprises. Something beautiful may happen when you least expect it, you just need to be open to it.
The past is behind you, and the future is out of your reach. Live in the present and live your life to the fullest. You can make new memories instead of reminiscing about what has been.
Remember that there are no guarantees in life, that's what makes it so beautiful.
Trust me, you will love again, now stop crying and move on.
Shabnam Mahmoudkhan is a freelance reporter for La Voz.
Male expert Ehssan Barkeshli
If you are head over heels in love with a guy you don't have, even your ex, the best thing to do is to be deceitful.
Simply pretend to get over him. That way, if he's pretending to get over you, he'll drop his pretense and pursue you like a lion hunting its prey. Men won't stand idly by while their trophies float away in the wine-dark sea of love. Men want it all and are not humble enough to let go of a woman they still like.
If your ex really has moved on, you must focus on getting over him. Do not attempt to change his heart. It can't be managed. He will grow gills and swim away.
A woman once told me a surefire way for a girl to get over an ex-boyfriend, but it may only be useful if you're over 21 and are a witch. It may come in handy:
Walk into a bar, enter the restroom. Walk out of the restroom, exit the bar. In your head, count how many men pretend to accidentally look in your direction along the way. Write that number down.
When you get home, have your way with that many voodoo dolls, then have a hot bath.
Ehssan Barkeshli is the executive news editor for La Voz. Contact him at ehssanbarkeshli@lavozdeanza.com.
My boyfriend and I broke up three months ago and I haven't been able to get over him. I've tried everything. We were dating for two years and we were in love, but we mutually decided to end our relationship because we both felt like we had grown apart. At the time I was sure I didn't want to be with him because he was acting weird and immature, but honestly, it wasn't that bad. He has moved on though and is dating somebody else he likes, or pretends to like. What should I do?
Female expert Shabnam Mahmoudkhan
Dear Teresa,
I'd like to start off by saying that no guy is ever worth crying over for more than two days, so get your act together. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and this guy was only one of them.
Everything changes depending how you look at it. You can't fully control your thoughts but you can choose what you want to focus on, and what you focus on will expand. If you change your mentality, you will change your life.
It's simple: Think about the good stuff you had, compare it to the bad stuff - then see if the good stuff is good enough to put up with the bad stuff. Get it? Then make a choice and stick with it.
Life is full of surprises. Something beautiful may happen when you least expect it, you just need to be open to it.
The past is behind you, and the future is out of your reach. Live in the present and live your life to the fullest. You can make new memories instead of reminiscing about what has been.
Remember that there are no guarantees in life, that's what makes it so beautiful.
Trust me, you will love again, now stop crying and move on.
Shabnam Mahmoudkhan is a freelance reporter for La Voz.
Male expert Ehssan Barkeshli
If you are head over heels in love with a guy you don't have, even your ex, the best thing to do is to be deceitful.
Simply pretend to get over him. That way, if he's pretending to get over you, he'll drop his pretense and pursue you like a lion hunting its prey. Men won't stand idly by while their trophies float away in the wine-dark sea of love. Men want it all and are not humble enough to let go of a woman they still like.
If your ex really has moved on, you must focus on getting over him. Do not attempt to change his heart. It can't be managed. He will grow gills and swim away.
A woman once told me a surefire way for a girl to get over an ex-boyfriend, but it may only be useful if you're over 21 and are a witch. It may come in handy:
Walk into a bar, enter the restroom. Walk out of the restroom, exit the bar. In your head, count how many men pretend to accidentally look in your direction along the way. Write that number down.
When you get home, have your way with that many voodoo dolls, then have a hot bath.
Ehssan Barkeshli is the executive news editor for La Voz. Contact him at ehssanbarkeshli@lavozdeanza.com.
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cintia
posted 5/29/08 @ 12:27 AM PST
hey he will come around ,if your confident and you had a strong relationship if not then move on.
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